an offer I could easily refuse
May. 31st, 2004 03:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
egypturnashI went out from Spümcø to get some munchies. On the way I... geeze. I think I was reminded why I'm glad not to be a guy.
Crossing a small residential street between the studio and the corner liquor store, a car had to stop for me to pass. The driver said something indistinct out of his open window that sounded like "...masturbate?"
I just figured he was on a cel-phone or something and kept crossing the street. Turned out he was, indeed, talking to me, as he said more clearly, "Wanna watch me masturbate?"
"No."
"You suure?"
"Absolutely positive."
By then I was across the street, passing the cowboy-themed gay bar and closing in on the liquor store, and he continued on his merry way. Which, thankfully, did not parallel my path.
I suspect this request/offer would not have been made if I was reading as a boy. Welcome to womanhood, Peggy.
Sometimes being a man-hating dyke sounds like an absolutely wonderful idea.
Crossing a small residential street between the studio and the corner liquor store, a car had to stop for me to pass. The driver said something indistinct out of his open window that sounded like "...masturbate?"
I just figured he was on a cel-phone or something and kept crossing the street. Turned out he was, indeed, talking to me, as he said more clearly, "Wanna watch me masturbate?"
"No."
"You suure?"
"Absolutely positive."
By then I was across the street, passing the cowboy-themed gay bar and closing in on the liquor store, and he continued on his merry way. Which, thankfully, did not parallel my path.
I suspect this request/offer would not have been made if I was reading as a boy. Welcome to womanhood, Peggy.
Sometimes being a man-hating dyke sounds like an absolutely wonderful idea.
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Date: 2004-05-31 03:45 pm (UTC)I got proposed to by an old drunk once. He serenaded me and everything.
Being 13 at the time I didn't really appreciate the romance, but hey, the joys of womanhood!
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Date: 2004-05-31 04:38 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-05-31 03:47 pm (UTC)Not that this makes it any less frightening.
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Date: 2004-05-31 05:14 pm (UTC)People want the damndest things to happen to them.
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Date: 2004-05-31 06:34 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-06-01 01:43 pm (UTC)"You want to see a man, boy? I'll show you a man! KICK ME IN THE JIMMY!"
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Date: 2004-05-31 04:01 pm (UTC)Remember, the sane guys aren't responsible for the loony guys, & the sane women aren't responsible for the loony women.
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Date: 2004-05-31 04:18 pm (UTC)There are guys out there who don't suck; it's just that this is my first encounter with this sort of behavior, and becoming a man-hating dick-cutting dyke seemed like a good idea for a moment, and then like a humorously extreme reaction. There are guys out there who I'd love to see masturbate!
And the sane trannies aren't responsible for the loony trannies, either - something I have to remember as I try to be the former.
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Date: 2004-05-31 05:22 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-05-31 04:11 pm (UTC)I can honestly say that being a lesbian won't help though. They'll just switch to wanting to do X,Y, and X with you AND your girlfriend. :/
There are some nice guys, of course, but I swear most of them are f***ed in the head.
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Date: 2004-05-31 04:34 pm (UTC)It was a multi-leveled experience - it was really fucking creepy to have a complete stranger say something that intimate that to me. But it was also really surreal, at least for the first time (I'm sure the surreality will wear off), and it's validation of my growing feeling that yes, I read as a girl, even dressed in a baggy T-shirt.
"Are you dykes? Both of you wanna watch me masturbate?"
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Date: 2004-06-01 10:17 am (UTC)The joys of being female
Date: 2004-05-31 06:27 pm (UTC)I was repeatedly sexually harassed by a guy at a bus stop.
I've been groped while in a public pool. When I was a child.
Had a jogger grab me in a sexual manner while I was walking home from school.
Was subjected to inappropriate sexual questions by a Jr. high teacher.
Other female friends have had: A guy chase after them while masturbating, a naked man in a car approach them, had men expose themselves, and probably a lot worse things I was never told.
In other words, as you said, welcome to womanhood!!
Re: The joys of being female
Date: 2004-05-31 06:43 pm (UTC)And even given stuff like this being a likely part of the rest of my life... I'm still glad I'm doing this. I must be crazy.
Re: The joys of being female
Date: 2004-05-31 07:56 pm (UTC)Re: The joys of being female
Date: 2004-05-31 09:44 pm (UTC)Really, I was born physically male, honest. There are even a few photos on my hard drive that show pink hair, a very androgynous body with the beginnings of tits, and a penis.
Re: The joys of being female
Date: 2004-05-31 09:57 pm (UTC)I believe you, don't worry :) I've only seen bits of your hair, and eyes but still... female, I thought. Alas! The news is merely curious, and very interesting!
Re: The joys of being female
Date: 2004-05-31 11:15 pm (UTC)Probably in a year at most, the transition will stop being a subject on my LJ, and in my life as a whole... and if I decide to get genital surgery, talking about that will shock a whole new set of people following my work!
Re: The joys of being female
Date: 2004-06-01 09:19 am (UTC)Well, good luck and happy times for all :)
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Date: 2004-05-31 06:38 pm (UTC)As you say, it's certainly proof that you're doing the right thing. I'm pretty sure you'd have preferred some other validation than that, but as evidence of being female, it's about as concrete as it gets.
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Date: 2004-05-31 07:09 pm (UTC)I'm sorry that you went through this crap. But, as others said, it's proof that you pass.
Inquiring minds now want to know
Date: 2004-05-31 09:03 pm (UTC)On a more serious note, I'd say that means you more than 'pass'. But as I said before, you had me 'fooled' long ago =)
Re: Inquiring minds now want to know
Date: 2004-05-31 09:11 pm (UTC)But truly, it would depend on the alien in particular. As it does with humans. It's not the parts, it's the person they're attatched to. Whatever the species.
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Date: 2004-06-01 03:11 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-06-01 05:50 am (UTC)2) "What's the point? I'm sure you can't be anywhere as good as I am."
3) Say yes, then stick your finger down your throat and vomit in his lap.
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Date: 2004-06-01 09:42 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-06-02 03:11 am (UTC)I definitely don't want you pulling a Gwen Araujo on us, hon, but the sort of karmic comeuppance that sends the offender crawling back under his rock in twitching humiliation seems pretty good in the abstract.
... And before I forget, let me apologize on my gender's behalf. (And mine, if my sense of humor is being blithely insensitive again.)
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Date: 2004-06-01 01:14 pm (UTC)Seriously, that'd give me the willies. Screw the pepper spray, get some Raid.